Satan is super sneaky. He plants little lie seeds in our minds, which somehow turn into thoughts and mindsets that overcome us and seem to define our lives. I really do not like how these lies make me feel, or the way they make me think. And I hate the thought of others struggling against these lies and needlessly giving into them. So this is for me, this is for you, for anyone struggling.
Let’s get down to business and conquer these lies.
1. I am unlovable. Damaged goods. In the “leftovers” pile.
God’s love is unconditional and eternal, and nothing can separate you from it – NOTHING. (Jer 31:3, Rom 8:38) God doesn’t love halfway. What you do or don’t do does not ever define His love for you (Rom 5:8!) You are His child. (Gal 3:26) The love that compelled Him to die for you is the love He is lavishing on you right now. You are not second-best. You will not get second-best.
2. God is using me as a way to teach others what to not do (may sound funny…but this one’s real!)
I literally had this thought the other night. Yup…ridiculous. Is it God’s nature to scorn? To pick out our vulnerabilities and throw them back at us with a laugh? To say we’ve reached a point where the only use we are is to be a caution to others? If that is your view of God and His calling on your life, get in the Bible now and don’t come out until that’s changed. “The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness.” (Psa 145:8) There’s God for you. His plan for you is unique, it is important, it is meaningful, and He has made you part of the advancement of His kingdom. He’s given you a high calling. “But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” (1 Peter 2:9) That my friends is a worthy cause.
3. God doesn’t know what will make me happy – He is withholding good from me.
Let’s just remember here… think David with Bathsheba – it was so ingrained in him that she would make him happy that he killed someone to make it happen – and paid consequences. On the flip side, look at Abraham with Isaac. He obeyed…it didn’t look like it’d work out, but God worked it out, and fulfilled His promise. The moral here is that you see a millimeter of your story while God sees the full mile of it. He actually knows what’s best. What’s best for His Kingdom is best for you. And you can bet your life on His plan for you being 10/10.
“If we knew what God knows, we would ask exactly for what he gives.” – Tim Keller
4. I’ve ruined my chances to be who I want to be, who God wants me to be
To be straight forward, this is an insult to God. If you’re saying you have the power to screw up God’s will, you’re giving yourself way too much credit. He is sovereign. “Will not the Judge of all the earth do right?” (Gen 18:25) “My counsel shall stand, and I will accomplish all my purpose.” (Isaiah 46:10) I can’t say it enough: you cannot ruin God’s plan.
5. Joy will come from a person, a situation, a circumstance
I’m going to steal some John Piper wisdom here. Joy comes from the Holy Spirit (Gal 5:22). Joy comes from belonging to the kingdom of God (Romans 14:17). Joy comes through faith (Ro 15:13). Joy comes from seeing and knowing Jesus (Phil 4:4). Joy comes from the sanctifying effects of tribulation. (Ro 5:3-4)
6. I am not good enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough
God made you. And as was said about all of His creation – it is good. You are good. You were made perfectly, perfectly unique, perfectly you, and there is beauty in that. This concept is kind of taboo in Christian circles these days but it is selfish to think negatively of yourself (and yes, selfish to think too well of yourself, ha). But beating yourself up about you will not ever help anything. Be confident. You’re beautiful because you’re His. Your mind is beautiful. You are redeemable. You were made well.
7. God is punishing me.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins”. He is forgiving.
“I am He who blots out your transgressions”. Yeah…like erases them. As far as the East is from the West. Gone, gone, gone.
“While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” In the very depth of your sin, He didn’t punish you. He did the most loving thing – sacrificed Himself for you. That is still His heart.
“There is therefore no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus.” <—LIVE it. Believe it. Walk it. Shout it from the mountaintops.
Justified…just as if you’d never sinned.
8. Feeling hopeless = being hopeless
Feelings don’t equal reality – not now, not ever. There is hope. Eternally, and on earth, because of Jesus. There is always hope. There is always joy. Take 5 minutes to ponder the gospel and when you come out of it I guarantee you won’t feel hopeless anymore. He loved you enough to die for you. He rose again to give you His life inside. He gives you strength for the darkness, He gives you love for your battered heart. HOPE. “Love hopes all things”…there is hope everywhere if we look with the eyes of Jesus.
9. Closing my heart and shutting off my emotions will protect me
To close your heart to pain is to close your heart to love. To fold your arms to what life might throw at you is folding your arms to what God might throw to you. The suffering that will come from closing yourself up will surpass suffering that may come from keeping open hands. Open up your heart, and Jesus will be free to reign in it, to fulfill it, to satisfy it. Learn Jesus. Get to know Him, His character. As you do this, you will learn to trust Him. To open your arms, to give Him control. That is when the beauty happens.
Now I’m gonna get outside to enjoy the snow that is finally dumping upon the dry and barren land of Colorado and then eat another lemon scone and then work tomorrow and go to school and life will go on just like it always did and does… your life will go on too but I pray it will be more joyful and fulfilled because of the truth you own to combat those lies.
God gives us truth, and He gives us strength and somehow we’re gonna make it through these crazy times and be all the better for them.
PS here is a playlist of songs that have been meaningful to me lately